I found an old mix cd in my car, under my front seat the other day and decided to pop it into the cd player. To be honest, I was a little hesitant to listen to it because it was created when life was, let's just say, a little more simple, than it is now. But I am big girl now, so I threw it in, and forced myself to listen to all the songs, and I surprisingly got through all of them, tear free, and was content. But that was a total tangent, but one song that I thought might bring back memories, actually made my mind go in a different direction. It made me start thinking of what are turn-ons and complete turn-off when it comes time to search for a man.
Turn-Ons
When a guy is close with his family. While out to lunch with my mom a few weeks ago, sitting behind her I noticed a VERY attractive man, who looked to be in his early to mid twenties, eating lunch with someone who appeared to be his mother, aunt, grandmother, etc. I could have been completely wrong and it was his older mistress or maybe he wasn't even enjoying his lunch with said person, but from a distance, I was instantly attracted to the possibility that he was spending his afternoon eating lunch with his mother.
Little thoughtful gestures. If a guy will take 5 minutes out of his day to leave you note on your car, surprise you at work, whisper in your ear how beautiful you look, or even just a random hug or kiss in the middle of the day, I will melt in his arms in a second. These are all things that hardly take any effort but mean the world to me. I've had these things done to me, and I've done these for a past significant other and it is always appreciated.
A guy will hold a baby or play with a little kid without being asked to. I know I've always wanted to be 1 thing when I grow up, a mom. I think if a guy will voluntarily hold a baby or play with a little kid it shows that someday he will want to be a dad and he already seems to have a head start on those guys that could care less about little kids until they actually become a dad.
Turn Off
If the tone of your voice sounds like you've taken 1 too many hits on the bong. I was at work, running around like crazy, on an unusually busy Monday night. When a group of 3 decent looking guys make it to the front of the line at my register, I apologized for the wait. One of the guys began flirting with me and informed me that “the only thing he was waiting for was for me to marry him.” I blushed a little and continued to flirt a little bit, while trying to nicely turn down the offer for a date. Why, might you ask? Besides the cheesy pick up line that in other situations, I might actually fall for (if done correctly, they can be kinda cute) this guy sounded high as a kite. His friends sounded sober so I don't think they were all actually high at the moment, but it was just a major turn off.
You're wearing one of those Hollister Co. or Abercrombie & Fitch shirts with a semi-suggestive saying. I'm no prude on anything, but it just makes me think that you are a little too into yourself if you can parade around in a shirt that says “Don't get too excited. I'm only the wingman.” Ok, I won't get excited over you, I'll go hang out with the classy guy in a regular Hollister shirt. Luckily I just checked out Hollister and A&F's websites and didn't find any new styles of shirts like this. Hopefully this is fashion trend that has gone down the toilet.
This makes me feel really picky, but I guess this is time in my life to be picky, and there is no way I'm settling for anything less than everything I want.
